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How to REALLY get a “Beach Body”…

There is an excellent meme that continues to circle about this time of year, year after year, about how to “Get a Beach Body”. It goes like this:

  1. Have a Body
  2. Go to the Beach

Which is all well and good of course, and jolly funny, unless we are secretly having a massive crisis of confidence about our body and we just want to hide inside as the sun comes out.

Improving body image is huge huge huge: and something that is dear to my heart in my coaching Academy. Having women work through the 30-day Self Esteem course and say they have worn a swimsuit or bikini to the beach for the first time in a decade and felt good in their own skin is the most rewarding work in the world. It absolutely thrills me to see that transformation in confidence and happiness.

Everyone deserves to feel at home in their body: it is the only place we have to live so any energy spent hating it rather than loving it is time and energy wasted.

Obviously I can’t replicate a 30-day course of personal growth and transformation in the next 176 words (do waitlist for the Academy if you want the real deal, you can do that here: https://iamawellbeingwarrior.com/wellbeing-warriors/) but I will say if you start focusing on these things it will definitely help.

Do what YOU need to do to feel more confident NOW.

Not when you get to that magical weight or whatever.

What makes you feel even a smidge more confident  – right NOW NOW NOW?

That gorgeous kaftan? Get it.

A pedicure so your feet look bright and beautiful when you see them? Do it.

Stop waiting.

Move towards confidence now.

If you can’t yet love (or even like) your body for how it looks, love your body for what it can DO.

It can, and does, do so much for you.

Concentrate on your capabilities, not your aesthetics.

Celebrate them.

Be proud of them.

And build on them.

Stop focusing on what you are trying to GET from your body, and look at what you are GIVING it instead.

Stop trying to GET a result (thinner / lighter / tighter /younger / etc) and look at what you can consistently GIVE instead as a service.

Give your body kind words.

Give it fresh food.

Give it a walk around the park or a run or a swim in the ocean in the sun.

Revel in what you can give.

Take your body to the beach, feel the sand between your toes and the sun on your skin and enjoy all summer has to offer.

That link for my Academy is below – I can’t tell you how much it will make you feel good on the inside: I believe every woman deserves that: summertime or not!

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Nourishment … Or Punishment?

Want to turn everything you know about exercise on its head? That struggle of making it happen? All the willpower than needs to be mustered? The endless “shoulds” for each missed class or walk? Well, you can.

You just need to adopt the mindset of the Effortless Exerciser.

And what IS that Louise, I hear you ask.

Well. Here’s the thing. When exercise is a hard habit to make stick, and we keep falling off the wagon it’s a signal that we are using exercise to GET something from our body.

Usually it’s to be thinner, to have a smaller arse, or to get rid of the entire tube of Pringles we accidentally snaffled last night (impossible to stop, I hear ya).

We want to GET a result from our body in terms of how it looks and weighs. And sometimes we want to punish ourselves for a less than stellar diet.

It’s a pretty harsh relationship when you look at it. It’s all get get get.

We can find a much more peaceful and powerful way. And that’s to start viewing exercise as something we GIVE to our body. Not because we are trying to force a certain result, but because we only have this one remarkable body to live in for the entirety of our life, and that we want to honour and respect it.

We want to give it what it needs, simply because it needs it, not because we are trying to elicit something in return.

We give from a place of love and generosity. We give because we want to look after it, and it likes to move. It’s like walking the dog; you walk the dog because you love the dog and it needs to be walked to be healthy and happy; not because you are trying to get the dog to give you something. You give to the dog. Regularly walking the dog is love in action.

Moving your body often is self-respect in action. It’s about giving generously, rather than trying to drive an outcome. Effortless exercising is about giving not getting. It’s choosing nourishment rather than punishment.

 

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Waste NOT Waist.

This month I’ve been working with the members of my coaching Academy ~Wellbeing Warriors~ on the trusty topic of how to start the year with purpose! Specifically how to turn wishes from a good-natured intention in January, to something that is just a non-negotiable part of their life come December.

One of the things that so many women (and quite a few men) suffer from is over-eating. Having a big lunch as a pick me up during the day to compensate for a tricky meeting, or to delay going back to the office. Overeating on the kid’s leftovers so they don’t “go to waste” (except they DO: they go directly to YOUR waist. Whoa.). Treating yourself to a cold crisp Sauv (or four) as a treat after a hellish day or a horrendous commute. Mindlessly chowing through half a packet of cheese and biccies in-front of Netflix doing the double screen thing on Instagram then hiding the packet. Overeating. It’s huge.

In a way, it’s a good problem to have. We are supremely fortunate to live in a country where the vast majority have an abundance of food to eat. However, we eat when we are not hungry, we overeat when we are full, and we often use food not as fuel but as entertainment or reward, and that’s a problem.

If this is ringing bells then changing your mindset around this alone would set your 2019 on fire: imagine creating freedom around food and eating just when you are physically hungry?

Here’s the thing.

When you are using food, not as fuel, but as either a reward or as entertainment, you are asking your stomach to solve a problem it can never solve.

If you are bored or unhappy or stressed, it’s a job for your brain.

The fact is, you need to talk to your disruptive peer/boss/staff about that tricky meeting and reset some expectations. If your job is boring you then take a training course, ask for more responsibility or take steps to find a new one.

Or you need to cook less or buy some storage for leftovers and get smart at batching meals.

Or you need to genuinely search for a new job with a better commute or negotiate some flexitime.

Or you need to call a friend/take up surfing/train your pet aardvark to whistle if you are bored.

Your stomach cannot ever, evvvvvverrrrrrrrrrrrr, solve any of those problems.

They are the job of your brain.

Putting food you don’t require IN your mouth as a substitute for the right, empowered words coming OUT of your mouth will never fix the problem.

It merely perpetuates the dispiriting cycle of overeating. To solve it, you don’t need another expensive diet to eat up: you need to marshall your inner resources, get to the core of it and speak up.

 PS: If this is ringing bells for you and you want more support – dive IMMEDIATELY into the Food & Freedom module within the Academy, get the tools you need and start taking control back today: Join Wellbeing Warriors now.

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How Facebook Could Help You Be Naturally Fit and Healthy

Tweet: How Facebook could help you be naturally fit and healthy http://ctt.ec/59pJL+ #shinebright @FlexHappyAre you on Facebook, darling? Of course you are. I have an acquaintance who hates it and calls it “me-book” because it’s all so “me me me”. I can see her point, but I have to say I love the way it keeps me effortlessly in touch with all my friends and family overseas, and of course hanging out with you guys sharing inspiration and mood lifters on a daily basis. I love the stream of positivity that runs through my life on a daily basis.

So here’s a thing I have been thinking about: the status updates that we push out to the world about what’s happening in our life. You know the  “Here’s me doing a thing” “Here’s a selfie of me doing another thing”  “I love my fella/kid, he is so awesome here is a pic of me + him/them looking cute together doing a cute thing”. Status updates are usually sparky, and positive  – they are the face we want to show to the world.

So – as you know I work a lot with smart, busy woman around life /work balance, intuitive natural weight-loss and self esteem – some of my favourite work BTW! The thought that suddenly occurred to me is this:

What if our Body got to share status updates of how we were looking after it? What would THAT look like? If it was Bodybook, not Facebook? What status updates would Your Body post if it could?

“She’s over fed me AGAIN. I am stuffed. Really uncomfortable. Why does she keep doing that to me?! Anyone?”

“She’s just fed me a load of chocolate, whilst only an hour ago she was telling me off for not being able to fit into her favourite jeans. What does she expect me to do? I am living with a crazy lady!”

“Missed the promised walk again today. I was so looking forward to it. Why is my walk always the thing that gets dropped when the diary gets busy? Why is there always something more important than me?”

“She is working us to the bone AGAIN. I am exhausted. Would really, REALLY, like a REST. Is that too much to ask, lol?”

Or would Your Body be posting status updates like this?

“I love my owner! Even though she was busy she still made time to make sure I got to move today – it was only 15 minutes but that makes all the difference to me. I love her!”

“I love my girl. Turned down dessert because I told her I was full and she so totally listened. We are SUCH a great team”.

“Look at what we are doing right now? Cooking something super nutritious that’s what. Oh yeah, I know I am important because she makes this stuff happen for me ALL THE TIME”.

“Yes, we are at yoga. I love that she makes time for this every week. Makes me feel SO GOOD! Bliss. OM y’all!”

Facebook works so well because of course we can be so selective about what we post. Only the pretty selfies make it. Only the pix or talk of the peak experiences make it to status update. We have a great deal of control over the face we present to the word. That’s all cool – I think we would all find it pretty boring and depressing if there was a stream of all the minutia as well as the lowlights. The point is we have full control. We can create an image that we actually want to live up to.

But what if it was not us posting? Just for a week or two? What if Your Body was in charge of your Facebook updates for a fortnight, and it decided to post twice a day, every day. What if THAT was being put out there into the world? Would you be proud of what Your Body was saying about you? Would you feel like you were a team? What would it have to say if it had a voice and a forum? Does that make you feel uncomfortable or does that feel like fun?

If Your Body had a voice what would it say?

This has really helped me to think more deeply about my self-care and prioritisation of exercise in my life. It’s helped me to take action and to make sure each day contains a good level of self-care and respect for my body. If my Body was posting each day I’d like to give it good things to say!

It’s a subtle change in focus that can create a big change in action. What about you? Hit the comments below and give me a status update from Your Body, or an update you would like Your Body to post about you.

If Your Body had a voice, a Facebook profile, what would it say?

 

Louise Thompson, wellbeing coach

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3 Things I Wish All Women Knew About Body Image

3 Things I Wish All Women Knew About Body ImageLadies, in the age of images perfect celebrities in our face at every turn, who hasn’t had the odd crisis of confidence? Feeling Beautiful is a significant part of a woman’s psyche in much the same way that the “provider” image is deeply ingrained in men. That may be changing slowly but it’s still incredibly prevalent.

We WANT (need?) to feel beautiful as a woman. And, yet, I see too many women whose poor body image is kicking their ass all over their life. Here are three things you need to know:

1. Feeling Beautiful is a decision you can make for yourself.

Yup. Feeling anything, anything, is something you create for yourself. It’s not something someone else “makes” you feel. It’s the product of what you think about something that has occurred or someone has said. It’s not what they said, it’s what YOU think and therefore feel about it.

Which is good news. Because that means you don’t need external validation. You can take that power right back and DECIDE you want to feel beautiful, and that, in fact you are.

Check out this quote from the uber-talented actress Gabourey Sidibe:

“People always ask me, ‘You have so much confidence. Where did that come from?’ It came from me. One day I decided that I was beautiful, and so I carried out my life as if I was a beautiful girl … It doesn’t have anything to do with how the world perceives you. What matters is what you see. Your body is your temple, it’s your home, and you must decorate it.”

Is she “classically” beautiful? No. I guess not. Does beauty radiate from her soul. You best your ass it does.

Read this out loud for me, right now, with a different emphasis on each word:

I can CHOOSE to feel beautiful.

I can choose to feel beautiful.

I can choose to FEEL beautiful.

It’s in your hands sugarplum. Those thoughts are in YOUR head. Those emotions live in YOUR body. You can choose to feel beautiful RIGHT NOW. No lip-gloss required.

2. Even Cameron Diaz does not look like Cameron Diaz.

3 Things I Wish All Women Knew About Body ImageTrue. I bet even Cameron Diaz WANTS to look like Cameron Diaz! Airbrushing is rife. Photoshop is everywhere. Even we can we can put the most flattering filters on our own instagram pix before sharing them with the world. That’s why the #nofilter hashtag trends so high.

Filters.

Smoke and Mirrors.

Tricks of the light.

Flattering angles.

Kim Kardashian’s contouring makeup tricks – check them OUT! Instant cheekbones.

Seriously. Don’t get taken off track by smoke and mirrors.

No-one looks like what they look like.

And that’s totally okay.

Don’t let an artificial idea of beauty throw your inner peace under the bus.

3. Beauty is an inside job.

Have you heard that catchy song out at the moment, by a band called G.L.R? It’s called Ugly Heart. I am sure you are also doing a bit of what I fondly call Car Dancing to it

The lyrics pull you in. Why? Because we all know traditional beauty on the outside does not equal beauty on the inside.

“Ok you’re pretty, your face is a work of art
Your smile could light up New York City after dark,
Ok you’re cover boy pretty stamped with a beauty mark,
But it’s such a pity, a boy so pretty
Has an ugly heart”

 

People lie. People cheat. People do some fairly shitty things. It’s a fact. Our thoughts and intentions and choices – they are all energy. We can radiate either a beautiful or an ugly energy. That’s what we really see and pick up on. Beauty really is an inside job.

It starts from the inside.

True beauty comes from truth.
It comes from integrity.
It comes from compassion.
It comes from kindness.
It comes from love.

Feel beautiful emotions. Act in beautiful ways. We live in a beautiful world. Feel that beauty. It will radiate.

Roald Dahl said it best:
“If a person has ugly thoughts, it begins to show on the face. And when that person has ugly thoughts every day, every week, every year, the face gets uglier and uglier until you can hardly bear to look at it.

A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts it will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.”

Let the goodness shine out like sunbeams sweetheart.

You are ALREADY beautiful.

Louise Thompson | Life Coach, Writer, Speaker

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