You might relate to this one…we all have that one friend, right?!
I have an acquaintance here in the small town I live in, and I bump into her every now and again, say once or twice a year maybe. Almost every time I see her she is either hating hating HATING her job because she has a “toxic” boss/colleagues/culture, or, she is just about to start a new job which is going to be everything the last one wasn’t. Sure enough, when I saw her yesterday in the queue at the pharmacy, she was on the verge of leaving the latest “totally toxic workplace” and looking for pastures new. Again.
What is going ON? You may have someone similar in your life. Where, for years and years they are complaining about the exact same thing, or the same thing just a different context. Essentially nothing ever really changes.
The thing I have observed over 15 years of doing the Coaching work I am privileged to do with my amazing students and VIPs is that there is a huge difference between FEELING BETTER, and GROWTH. They are not the same:
Most people don’t want to grow, they just want to feel better. Why?
Growth is uncomfortable
It asks you to look in the mirror and face some discomfort
Growth requires work that we choose
Growth asks you to stretch and let go of old ways of thinking
To face what can be hard truths
To take responsibility for the choices you make, as well as the ones you pass up,
Growth needs you to make the hard calls and to know that if it doesn’t challenge you it won’t change you
Feeling better though? That’s pretty easy.
A scroll. A snack. A shiny distraction. A quick switch.
Easy. Feeling better is easy.
Growth asks for something more than ease.
Reflection not running.
Discipline over discomfort.
Knowing not numbing.
When we chase ease we miss a real opportunity.
We miss expansion. We miss evolution. We miss moving to the next level in this epic game of life we are all signed up for.
If we truly want a better life, or we keep getting the same situation on repeat, it’s time to look for growth instead of ease.
Food for thought? This distinction between growth and ease makes me so very proud of the work my clients and students do every day, and they deserve every amazing, life enhancing result they enjoy 
P.S. Want to work with me and not just feel better but actually GROW as a person? VIP Coaching is sold out but I’d love to coach you in my Academy. Deets here
