I hope you are great! Here’s something short I want to share after coaching literally thousands of smart women for well over a decade and a half, and seeing how over-responsible we can make ourselves for other people being okay + the people-pleasing patterns we loop over and over. With love this is what I want you to know…
Stop assuming people are mad or pissed off at you in some way.
Stop attempting to read their minds and adapting your behaviour around that assumption.
Stop trying to manage the thoughts and emotions of others. Those thoughts and emotions live in their heads and their bodies, not yours, so let people be in charge of themselves.
If they have something to say to you, they will.
If they have something they genuinely need to ask of you, they will.
If they have something to say that truly matters to them that they want you to know, they will.
And if they don’t – it is their responsibility, not yours.
And just like that, we get to recalibrate. Confronting this one I know, especially if we have been stuck in people pleasing patterns for years, (decades!) but stopping the default assumption of over-responsibility is a sure path to peace, my friend, I promise you.
Have a wonderful weekend, and if you do want to look at doing VIP Coaching with me, I only take 10 clients per year (all sold out!) but you absolutely can join my group coaching programme and get live coaching on your issue and situation each Friday morning. You can check that out here.
