Smart people. Pushing hard to make their life a success. Make stuff happen so they can be happy.
Get the bigger house. The baby. The cute spouse. The bach. The overseas trip. The promotion. The passion-fuelled soul-business. The qualification. The body. The reno. Get mortgage free. The investment property. Another child. The white picket fence.
Once those things are in place, well then we’ll have “made it”. Arrived. Got there. And that is a thing worth striving for, no? To arrive. That’s what it’s all about.
Or is it?
Here’s the THING.
There. Is. No.“ARRIVED”.
ARRIVED IS A DESTINATION THAT DOES NOT EXIST.
Perpetually seeking “arrived” is CODE for deferring your happiness. It’s making your happiness dependent on a future possible external consequence.
We keep striving for arriving and all it’s doing is keeping people stressed out.
We never “make it”. Get all the ducks in a row. Doesn’t happen.
Why? Because “making it”, that END POINT is not a real outcome in life. Life is not built to have that definitive “made it” point. Life is mean to be an ENDLESS PROCESS OF EXPANSION. Fulfilling one desire is the route to ANOTHER desire being born within us. Fulfilled desire breeds new desire. We are never “done”. It’s about continual expansion, not completion. We never truly “arrive”.
How different would it feel to put our focus instead on THRIVING, rather than the false promise of arriving?
Thriving is something you do NOW, not at some indeterminate point in the future.
THRIVE is active, it’s now. It’s “what can I do NOW to feel good now, today, in my work/life/health/relationship/home?”
Thriving means SEIZE THE DAY. What feels better in this moment? How can I demonstrate more love/kindness/strength/wisdom in THIS moment?
Thriving means enhance the experience RIGHT NOW. How can I bring more fun/love/companionship/joy to this thing I am doing right now.
Thriving means relishing each task ahead as a gift in some way. Thriving means relishing each interaction as a Universe sent message or lesson of value. Thriving means giving of our best energy no matter what. Thriving means appreciating the SMALL stuff, the little details in which the joys of life are held. The kiddies smile. The shared smile at the café. The email saying well done. The flat pack set that clicked into place. The paw on the lap.
Thriving means relishing the best each moment brings, not waiting for the BIG moments of pivotal change to deliver it all.
Thriving is a mind-set for contented and joyful living no matter the circumstance. Arriving may inspire us to greatness and achievement, but thriving ensures we enjoy the journey along the way.
THRIVING IS THE NEW ARRIVING. You heard it here first. Spread the word.