My Gran had a whole cabinet full of china that she kept “for best”. Now as all her things are being sold and given away after her passing it occurs that I don’t think I ever once ate off those plates.
Which is a full on shame.
Saving stuff “for best” is something we all do. But I wonder if it’s a useful strategy any more?
Here’s the thing:
Today is actually all we really have. The only place joy exists in in the present moment. Are you really maxing today? When we live for “when business is better” or “when the kids are older” or “when the mortgage is paid off” we defer our happiness. We throw our energy forwards. We are not living our maximum potential happiness in the here and now.
This is not to say, don’t plan. Of course, plan for future milestones, and put all manner of cunning schemes into place but don’t take your eye off the ball in the now. Happiness can slip right through your fingers today if you put too much energy on planning for tomorrow.
How can you live for the max now?
You can wear that pretty dress. Don’t save it for the special occasion. Today is a special occasion. Put it on!
Light the Ecoya candle. Right now. For you.
Say screw the washing up lets go walk on the beach. Right now.
Make the difficult call. Say what you need.
Lighten that conversation. Bring grace.
Have the fresh herbs.
Book the show.
Make the detour.
Have the random conversation with a stranger that you don’t have time for.
Allow yourself the bunch of flowers.
Tell them you love them.
Use the best crockery.Wear the glorious shoes even though you have nowhere special to go .
This is living with an abundant mindset.
- More than enough time
- More than enough energy
- More than enough love
- More than enough money
- We live in abundant times
Granny’s generation lived in scarcity and their habit of saving for best safeguarded against real loss and shortage. We live in an age of incomparable abundance. We get to make a new rule. Screw saving stuff “for best”! The best is now. Right now.
All we have is today. Maxing out today is important. You do not know what tomorrow will bring. Don’t take your eye off the ball of today but always focusing on tomorrow. We must take the opportunity to scatter as many moments of random joy into each day as we can.
Live abundant gorgeous one. Go do something frivolous. Something “for best”. Right now. Today.