A big curly question for you this week, one that came up this week in the live weekly coaching session in the Wellbeing Warriors Coaching Academy that I thought would help lots of you today:
How do you know you are D.O.N.E. with something?
When it’s D.O.N.E. rather than done.
That you are Capital D Done. End of the road D.O.N.E. That is what I am talking about.
How do you know you are truly D.O.N.E. with that relationship that does not light either of you up?
How do you know you are truly D.O.N.E. with that career that sucks your soul?
How do you know you are truly D.O.N.E. with that friendship that feels subtly undermining and “off”?
How do you know you are truly D.O.N.E. with that house? That place? That feeling that you are not where you are meant to be?
How do you know you are truly D.O.N.E. with that obligation you made with the best of intentions way back when?
How do you know you are truly D.O.N.E. with that way of handling that person or situation?
How do you know you are truly D.O.N.E. with that way of thinking about a certain thing? Complaining about a certain person or situation?
How do you know you are D.O.N.E. with that unhealthy coping strategy / bad habit that you know doesn’t serve you?
That you are D.O.N.E. with squeezing yourself into a certain sized box in order to satisfy others perception of who and how you should be?
I will tell you:
You will know when you are completely D.O.N.E. with something when you give it up and you feel freedom instead of loss.
You will know you are D.O.N.E. when the (often massive) hassle or intense pain of walking away is preferable to putting up with whatever it is for even One. More. Second.
People think being D.O.N.E. is a bad thing.
That it is a bad thing to throw your hands in the air and proclaim: that’s it, you are D.O.N.E.
Or to silently sit through whatever it is but whisper quietly to yourself as you get in the car afterwards “That’s it. Last time. I am D.O.N.E. “
It can be a loud moment that brings the room to a standstill.
Or it can be one as quiet as the grave that you whisper only to yourself.
We associate that moment with having failed. With having lost control.
I actually think the moment we completely connect in our hearts that we are D.O.N.E. is our moment of greatest power.
When we are truly D.O.N.E. with one particular way of being or living it opens our brain and heart up to find a different way, a new way, an alternative way. It forces ingenuity and courage.
Being truly D.O.N.E. with something can become the solid foundation on which we create the next chapter of our LIFE.
We fear being D.O.N.E. thinking being D.O.N.E. is the end.
My friends, being D.O.N.E. sets you free.
Being D.O.N.E. is just the beginning.
The life you really want?
It’s right there, on the other side of whatever you are truly D.O.N.E. with.
What do you want to be DONE with?
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