2023 Love Your Work Positive Thought Strategy Private Life Coaching

What if it DOESN’T happen for a reason?

A little something on the blog today for those of you who are struggling through at the moment. If anyone is saying to you “everything happens for a reason!” and you want to SCREAM as they say that…well, I’ve got something for you today.


I am the Queen of Finding The Silver Lining. The Duchess of Making Lemons Outta Lemonade. The High Priestess of Making The Best Of Things. I believe we have so much more room for optimism in our daily lives than we tend to create. I believe life is our life coaching laboratory and we can learn and improve so much just by approaching the day to day with consciousness: observing the patterns and meaning in what is going on around and inside of us. However. Recently a good friend lost her husband and so there is also that. Another friend has breast cancer and undergoing chemo. Many of you have recently lost your houses or livelihoods in extreme weather events. I’ve just heard that a friend’s sister-in-law has sepsis and has lost both her lower legs.  Both!


Sometimes you simply cannot put a positive spin on things. Sometimes things really are just bloody appalling. And it’s okay to let them be horrendous and not pretend otherwise.


Sometimes there is no hidden meaning for us to wrestle with.


Sometimes people trill “It will make you stronger!” and “it’s all happened for a reason!” in a well-meaning fashion that totally subverts the scale of your personal tragedy…. it’s okay to want to high five them, in the face, with a chair.


Sometimes you need to know it’s okay not to have your game face on. It’s okay to find a quiet corner and try to absorb the blow.


In order to rally (and you will) you need to acknowledge and feel the sides of your loss – the breadth and the depth of it. But what you don’t always need to do is find a hidden meaning.


Sometimes crappy things don’t have a purpose. They are just crappy. And that’s how it is.


Sometimes things don’t make sense in the moment, and they may never do. There is no hidden meaning or purpose. They just are.


You can drive yourself bonkers trying to work out why it happened to you, or how it will ultimately serve you, or what you inadvertently did to make it happen in the first place or what the hell it’s supposed to mean.


Here’s the thing. Periods of intense suffering are part of the human experience. I wish it were not so but it is. Transcending those periods are also part of the human experience. Those that do that with the most speed and grace are those who acknowledge the reality and scale of what’s occurred and don’t bury it in burgers or booze or pretend it’s fine when it really is not.


It’s okay not to always be strong and to let your game face slip for a time. You don’t have to always be strong. You can drop the mask of hardihood for a time. It’s okay.


Sometimes bad things just happen. They come. You endure. You rise. You move on. Maybe not the same as before but onward you will go.


There doesn’t need to be a hidden message or for it all to make sense. Maybe it will, ten, twenty years hence. Maybe it was all for a reason. Or maybe, it wasn’t and it won’t.


So you will get through. You cry. You get seriously unproductive for a while. You drop a few balls. You reach out. You hunker down. You endure. And then you move on.


Sometimes things are just bloody shocking. It happens to us all at some point, in a variety of hideous guises. You don’t need to find a purpose for it; you need to persevere through it. Look for your perseverance. It’s there. Be strong: keep going.


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2022 4 Dimensional Wellness Private Life Coaching Self Care Sunday

The #1 quality that means people will get the most from life coaching is…

You know what is the #1 thing that means people will get the most from life coaching?


Having a clear idea on their problems? On their goals? Clarity on their desires? Awareness of their boundaries?


It’s not what you think.


My VIP clients and my amazing Coaching Academy members have ONE defining quality in common to get the results they do:


And that is READINESS.


🔥They are sick and TIRED of the status quo.


🔥They want things to be different MORE than they want to get sympathy when talking about them.


🔥They are ready to be CURIOUS about their patterns and choices (not judgmental, curious).


They are READY to leave the COMFORT BLANKET OF DISCOMFORT (yes, discomfort can be so familiar it feels more comfortable than change) (IKR)

If you want to change your life, and have the health, wealth, meaning, relationships you deserve you have to be READY to leave behind the comfort bubble of excuses, or of feeling sorry for yourself, or having other people feel sorry for you…


What you want is right on the other side of being READY for it.




And…the best bit?


It’s only one decision away 💛


What are you ready for ?


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7 Things I Have Learned From Coaching Smart People.

The 7 things I have learned from coaching thousands of smart people.

1. Something bad has happened to pretty much everybody at some point. Everyone has a thing that will make you feel lucky to have not gone through it yourself, and will put some of your own stuff into sharp perspective. Even the “glidey girls” who look like they have life on lock have gone through tough stuff too. Everyone has a thing.

2. The ability of the human spirit to rise is almost limitless. The ability to go through and come out the other side is built in. We are programmed to transcend. Even if we think we are not, we are. If you are in a tough situation right now — keep going. You’ve got this.

3. Sticking in a job that sucks your soul is never worth it long-term. Short-term, yes, you sometimes have to be pragmatic. A lifetime? No.

4. Every problem has a solution. It might not be a solution you like or would wish for but there is a solution! If there is no solution, then you are not wresting with a problem, you are wresting with a fact. That means you are going to lose. Accept it and push forwards however you can.

5. We all spend far too much time worrying about what other people think about us, and it defines way too many of our choices. Your opinion about yourself is far more valuable than anyone else’s. Work on enhancing that first.

6. When you make positive choices in the right direction it’s astonishing how quickly all sorts of unanticipated magical assistance will start coming your way. Happens without fail. Courage gets rewarded.

7. The story you tell about yourself, to yourself, defines your life. Tell a good story. Make sure you are the hero or heroine who prevails and shines.


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Private Life Coaching

4 Things People Assume About Me That Are Wrong

4 Things People Assume About Me That Are WrongOne of the things people ask me when they meet me is something along the lines of “Your life must be soooo perfect!”. Because I am a Life Coach people assume my life is perfection. All . The. Time. Don’t get me wrong, I have a life I love, full of amazing people, experiences and things I have consciously chosen – I consider myself very lucky. But – it’s still life …stuff happens to me too. Here are the four things many people assume about me which are just not true!

1. My life is perfect at all times.

Nope! This is life – I don’t get a free pass. Shit still happens! I just have the tools to deal with it in a different way. Being a Life Coach doesn’t stop bad stuff happening I am afraid – bad things still happen to good people – me included. A life coach’s life is part of her laboratory – so when stuff happens I try and use it as a learning experience, as an opportunity to use the techniques I know, and hopefully take some lessons that will help not just me, but you too. There is a saying in the Life Coaching community that “There is no such thing as a bad experience – it’s all just an opportunity for new material” and I guess to a certain extent that’s true.

But – no – I don’t have a magic bullet proof shield! I just have more tools and tricks than the next person to hopefully ease the ride over whatever has come my way.

2. I am just sort of wafting about each day and I don’t work that hard

This one is a really funny one. Because life looks very different to my old corporate days of a 50+ hour week and the commute and all that, sometimes it doesn’t look much like work – ie. sitting in my pajamas drinking organic decaf with my cat while writing an article. Hell – sometimes it doesn’t even feel like work! Coaching a really connected and ready client for example. But – I am working! I enjoy what I do, almost all of the time, so the less it looks and feels like work the better I know I a doing. That’s what work is meant to feel like.  When you think of “working like a dog” think about the airport sniffer dogs – HOW much FUN are those dogs having?! Wagging their tails and running about. They LOVE their work. That how it’s meant to be. So – I very much try to “work like a dog”!

I am also stand out super lucky to be supported by a pretty incredible team who let me get on and do the bits of the job I love – working with clients, writing, teaching seminars, – whilst they do the admin, paperwork, finance and so on that is what actually keeps the show on the road.

I probably work about a 40 hour week these days: it just doesn’t feel like it!

3. That I am “analyzing them, right now” at a party

This one’s not new actually – people have been saying that to me at parties ever since I did my Pysch degree. “You’re analyzing me right now aren’t you?!” Nope sweetpea, I am enjoying the party and wondering where the chilled Sav is, just like the next person!

I don’t coach out of context and without permission. It would be weird and inappropriate! If a hairdresser suddenly whipped out scissors at a party and started trimming your fringe you would think that was invasive: how rude! It’s the same with coaching. It’s a fiercely effective discipline – but it needs to be in the right place with agreement about what the relationship entails from both parties.

Also – you know – I like to party and hang out and just talk about movies and whatnot just like everyone else!

4. That I “know everything” and I don’t have to do any coaching work ever on myself

I coach myself DAILY. Daily. Every. Single. Day. It’s how I stay in alignment (see the article I wrote about this last week called Congruence), live happy and do my best work both personally and professionally. I use the tools I teach and I journal, journal, journal.

If something feels off, I coach myself. If I am upset, I coach myself. If something doesn’t go to plan, I coach myself. If everything is okay, I coach myself. The tools might be different each time but it always comes down to doing the work consistently. It’s so not a chore. I can’t emphasize that enough. I love doing it. Because an investment of a few short minutes can realign my whole energy, perspective and day into one of productivity and joy. It’s the best investment of my time and energy there is. Coaching is freedom.

I also have a coach. He is amazing and a critical part of my self care team. I need my own coach as we all have blind spots. I want to operate at the top of my field and I know that investing in my own coach is an essential part of that. He brings a level of awareness to me that keeps me growing and expanding and being all I can be. It’s a fabulous process and I love it.

So – glad we cleared that up! I love getting questions from you – I am here to serve YOU – if you have a question or a topic you want me to write about in a future Wellbeing Wednesday please just get in touch!

positive balance, Louise Thompson, wellbeing, life coach,

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