Question for you today:
Does your life look exactly like what you thought it would look like at this point?
Does your life feel exactly like what you thought it would look like at this point?
I am willing to bet 98.2% of you reading this thought “er…NO Louise! It does not!”
That doesn’t mean you don’t have a great life! Or an okay life! Or loads to be grateful for! But just that…you didn’t think it would be quite like this, at this point.
I want you to know this:
Every single client in my coaching room has felt the same way as you:
- They don’t have the close relationship with their daughter/son/brother/sister/
mum/dad/ they thought they would have…
Or
- They didn’t think they would be worrying about money at this stage in their life…but things are tight…
Or
- They never thought they would be the person with the really scary health concern… but they are…
Or
- They thought they’d be married/retired/parent and they are not, or they are married/retired/parent but it doesn’t feel like they thought it would…
Or
- They are at the top of their game at work, but yet they are STILL working such long hours this can’t be right surely…
And so on.
All these situations are different, but they are all actually the same.
We think life should look and feel differently to how it does at this point.
I do this too. We all do it. We look around and think, well, I thought I’d be like THAT at this point. I thought I’d be further ahead with {this thing} and {this situation} would be sorted and {this relationship} would be {like this} stage by now.
Thing is, when we start fighting reality we imperceptibly shift from being a glass half full person to a glass half empty. We notice the gap more and more. It pulls our focus. We become hypnotised by what isn’t there, rather than what is.
There is a great Mandy Hale quote that’s a useful reminder in this situation:
And so it is. We can spend so much time focused on the half empty glass that we miss the joy we could be experiencing RIGHT NOW in the half glass we DO have.
There is an old proverb that I think relates well to this, I think about it a lot, it says:
“If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back”
And I’d say that is largely true. Most of the time what we complain of we still would not swap for someone else’s troubles.
Much of the time we cannot change our immediate circumstance, or how fair or deserved it may or may not be! However, if we want to be happier today (and we do), happiness is letting go of what we think life is supposed to look like and celebrating it for everything that it actually is.
I hope this gives you a little something to ponder today Test, as ever you can let me know here.
I wrote this blog for you (not AI) and it’s from my heart to yours, just as it should be.
