Something that comes up ALL THE TIME in my coaching sessions, are thoughts on how life would be A LOT easier if….etc…
Life would be a LOT easier if only other people (boss/partner/sister/ex) changed what they were doing/saying so it suited us better or was (what we perceived to be) better for them.
If other people were more reliable/fun/on-to-it/
However….
Giving up the illusion that other people could/should/will change to suit us is a huge personal growth milestone.
People will never change unless THEY want to.
Even then it might not be consistent or lasting.
People will not change unless they want to and are READY to.
You can try and cajole, beg, guilt, shame, plead…use logic, use emotion, but until it’s what they want and are ready for it’s not going to happen. It will be their timetable, not yours.
They will be ready when they are ready.
(Which might be NEVER)
Change is hard – it requires choice and commitment. Parking the need for others to be different in order for us to be happy is HUGE. It allows us to put that wasted energy where it can make a genuine difference.
The ONLY place we can truly effect change?
Changing ourselves. 
