My whole damn week went TOTALLY sideways this week, and I suspect I am not the only one. If you are in the same boat this Sunday I want you to know: YOU ARE DOING BETTER THAN YOU THINK YOU ARE!
Your brain defaults to seeing “The Gap” of where you want to be…the chores undone, the emails not replied to, the yoga class not made, the story not read, the kitchen bench not decluttered…you know, The Gap between YOU and Superwoman who is “on top of everything”.
This default perspective is unhelpful. Makes us feel bad. We need to consciously direct our brain to “The Gain” instead. The sore knee kissed better. The midday meeting that got an outcome. The lunch boxes were packed. The kindly Good Morning to the elderly neighbour. The bins put out. The swift lunchtime walk. The dentist appointment booked. The twenty six emails that DID get replied to.
Look. Life is LIFE. It will NEVER be complete til we are.
There will ALWAYS be stuff that’s UNDONE.
You can’t use DONE-NESS as your measure of how good your day was.
Train your brain to see not The Gap, but The Gain.
I promise you: you are doing better than you are judging yourself for.
Remove the unattainable yardstick of “done”, you will never reach it anyway.
Redirect your attention, and your COMPASSION to give your sweet self a break: I promise you, you are doing better than you think you are.
This. Is. Real. Self. Care. #thisisrealselfcare