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Change The Game

This picture meme I came across at random is everything I believe.

Physical wellbeing is *obviously* really important.

But it is often given far higher importance than our emotional, mental and spiritual health and wellbeing.

Change The Game

The interesting thing is that when we attend to our mental, emotional and spiritual health (with smart, easy to apply coaching tools) we start to feel comfortable in our own skin in a way we may never have done: and that becomes the foundation for almost effortless physical health choices.

Those diets that stop, start, stop, start: you just start to eat healthy ongoing because you want to.

It stops being hard, and becomes the obvious choice.

That excessive habit wagon you have fallen in and off time and time again? You don’t need another 30-Day miracle boot camp promising you the world or a gym membership that lapses and you feel guilty about; you need to attend to your boundaries, learn why you worry about stuff and exactly how to stop it, and generally expand your level of self-awareness and trust: and, guess what…you’ll exercise regularly because you want to, because it’s just what you do. No fuss. No struggle.

That crazy lack of rest and downtime, running on empty and lack of balance? Do the deep work and watch that fall into place. Start honouring your mind and body with appropriate self-care without force or guilt.

If you are O.V.E.R. doing the same thing, listening to the same old promises, falling on and off the same ole wagon with the same ole excuses…

Do. Something. Different.

Learn how to take care of your wellbeing – emotional, mental and spiritual – and watch your physical wellbeing fall into place.

Do. Something. Different. For. You.

Something that the woman you want to be in 2019 will thank you for.

You want change?

You want to look different?

Feel different?

Change. The. Game.

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Dream and Goals Emotional Honesty Live Happy Inspiration Love the Skin You're In

The F Word

No, not that one. The other one. The one that upsets us a whole lot more. The one that really brings us to our knees. Uhuh. You’ve got it – failure. Nothing strikes fear into our hearts quite like it. No-one likes to fail, and most of us will go to extraordinary lengths to avoid it.

Winning is good. Clearly. Hurrah! But, we rarely win all the time. Through lack of application or resources. Bad luck. Someone else being….shhhhh…Better Than Us. Not working hard enough. Circumstances beyond our control. Someone else not playing fair. It stands to reason that sometimes we are going to fail during this long and rich journey we call life – so maybe we should get a little better at it?

The F wordFear of Failure can loom so large that we stop playing the game all together – which is actually the ultimate tragedy. Isn’t that the greatest failure of them all? To be so fearful of failing that we make our life smaller, live in ever decreasing circles to keep ourselves safe and avoid it? Benjamin Franklin opined that there was nothing certain in this world save death or taxes. I think we can add failure to that list. Applying an emotional tourniquet to our life in order that we prevent future failure is not a winning strategy, it’s a strategy of lessening ourselves. Of spiritual and emotional cowardice.

 

Failure is one of the greatest growth experiences there is.

It can be an experience gifted to help us expand our world view. It’s an opportunity to pause, to ask what can I learn here? Why might this have happened in my life, now? What do I not want to repeat here?

The most important question of them all for me is: “What does this mean I want?” Really, really WANT? Nothing, n-o-t-h-i-n-g, throws what you truly want into clearer, sharper relief better than failing. You only need to have a failed marriage to a lying cheat to know that you want, more than anything, an honest man with a good heart and integrity above all other qualifications. You only need to get turned down at the final two of the third interview to know how much you really REALLY want to leave your current job when it was so close you could taste it. Your efforts will be redoubled with the clarity.

There is a silver lining to failure if we look hard enough. Some failure in life is inevitable for pretty much all of us. But it doesn’t have to be the end of the road. It can be the springboard to the next great thing. Or – it can be the failure that defines us and causes us to play small in that arena ever after. Too scared to love again. Or to reach higher professionally. Or to risk again. It seems to me we can either transcend our failure, or we can let it define us.

Harry Potter author J K Rowling famously and wisely said”

“Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I built the rest of my life”.

Just so. Failure really isn’t a taboo word, it’s an inevitable part of a full life well lived. After all it’s not about what knocked us down, so much as how much courage and grace we have to get back up. Getting fired or getting dumped just could be the solid foundation on which you build the rest of your life.

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Positive Thought Strategy

Can’t Find Your Passion?

What is it that allows some people to harness their passion, follow it almost effortlessly, and yet it’s such a struggle for so many others? It’s hard to even find their passion, let alone follow it! It’s so common for so many not to follow their passion, I wanted to look at what stops us and how to move past it today. Take it from me, a life where you are connected to your passion is a whole different kind of life and it’s something everyone deserves to experience! But we don’t. Why?

Well, most of the time what stops us is fear.

Fear that it won’t work.

Fear that we will fail.

That others won’t approve.

That we won’t be able to make bank.

That we’ve got it wrong.

Fear. Fear. Fear.

And here’s where things get stuck:

Our fear becomes greater than our courage.

And when our fear becomes bigger than our courage, we fail to act.

I have found working with so many beautiful, brave coaching clients who become ready, willing and able to step up and create the life of their dreams – that deep, deep, DEEP down almost everyone does know where their passion really does lie. They have just buried it under layers of fear. Their fear. The fear of those around them. Cultural fear.

It’s not that they can’t find their passion – it’s that they haven’t found the courage to act on it yet.

And you know what – that’s a good thing. It’s good to know – that you do know – and really you do – that whisper from your soul is there for everyone – you know where your passion lies.

courageYou don’t need a game of hide and seek to find it. You actually just need to work your courage muscles, flex them hard, and build them so they are bigger than your fear of moving towards that which calls you.

One of my favourite quotes of all time is from Anais Nin who said “Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.”

For me that rings 100% true.

Those with the biggest, most connected and passion-filled lives are the ones who have shown the most courage in moving towards them.

Those with small and unhappy lives are pretty much always characterised by being driven by fear, conflict aversion and lacking in the courage to take a risk or make a stand.

Life truly does shrink or expand in proportion to our courage.

The super talented author and professional lifehacker Tim Ferriss sums it up in a similar way: “A person’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have.”

And again. He is spot on. We are back to courage. It all starts with courage.

So – consider this – if you have been seeking your passion for some time – consider calling off the search.

Know that deep down you already know the answer.

Your passion isn’t OUT THERE to be found.

It’s a deep whisper from INSIDE for you to call forth.

It’s about developing the courage to not only listen to it.

But act on it.

Consider it’s less about passion and more about courage.

Focus on the courage piece.

You can start developing that this very day. By having that tricky conversation you have been avoiding. By walking away from that situation that no longer serves you. By trying the new hobby that terrifies and excites you in equal measure. By speaking to the stranger at the party. Build your courage muscles. Every day presents new opportunities to do it. Courage. Courage. Courage.

It’s rare that you can’t find your passion; it’s much more common that you have not found your courage.

So, if you are struggling to find your passion, instead focus on building the number of ways you display courage in your life. Once you change that pattern you will find your passion will present itself to you, right on cue. Seriously, it’s magical, I see it in my coaching room every day with my evermore courageous clients.

Remember:

“There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.”

~ Nelson Mandela

Be Brave. Play Big. Shine Bright.

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