Over-thinking… sound familiar?!
So common, and at a very real cost to our mental health.
Much (not all, but a lot) of our stress is (when we step back and evaluate it objectively) self-created. It’s the same thought-loops or stories we have told ourselves over and over about how we are letting someone down / not good enough in some way / something is going to go wrong / so and so will be upset.
These catastophising stories can run on repeat in our heads creating anxiety and stress. It’s all the over-thinking “What ifs” that can drag us down.
A really helpful tip can be getting these endless anxiety-inducing stories out of your head, and into paper.
Once you look at them in black and white it’s a lot easier to slow the over-thinking down, and evaluate them with a more considered perspective:
Is that really true? Is that a fact? Where’s the evidence of that? What’s the percentage likelihood of that ever occurring? If that did happen how would I handle it? When have I handled something similar successfully before? Is this even my responsibility?
The problem isn’t that we are thinking – it’s HOW we are thinking.
Pull out a pen and paper (or use the notes page in your phone) acknowledge that thinking, and then assess that story for truth, likelihood, responsibility and your capability.