What is it? And why should it matter to you? Well lean in darling, listen closer…I want to talk about Congruence today and why it’s the number one reason why you are not getting what you want in your life.
If your body does not look and feel like you want it to feel, you probably have a congruence issue.
If your work-life balance and stress levels are not where you want them to be, you probably have a congruence issue.
Congruence. Agreement. Harmony. Corresponding. Alignment.
I see a lack of congruence all the time.
The guy who is way overweight and wants to be slim and fit but also believes that eating healthy is hard and expensive.
The woman who wants more free time and relaxation but who also thinks that everything has to be done perfectly and you can’t relax until it’s done.
Listen up, yo!
If you DESIRE one thing, and I know you really, really WANT it: that’s GREAT. You should want it. Dream higher. Want better. Seek improvement. That’s good.
Your DESIRE isn’t the problem.
The reason you are not getting it, and keep not getting it, is not because there is something wrong with you wanting it.
The problem is that you have a lack of CONGRUENCE with what you believe ABOUT it.
The money can’t come if you believe rich people are selfish. You will subconsciously sabotage yourself from reaching the desire as you don’t want to be selfish.
The fit body you so want to live in, and you want to enjoy, can’t come if you believe eating healthy is hard and expensive because you will sabotage your eating habits on a regular basis.
The healthy life-work balance and the new calm zen you so want to be, cannot come into existence because you won’t be able to stop yourself from sabotaging your efforts to do yoga, meditate, journal, chill in front of a box set, with the need to get things done, at work and home. It will always override it.
It just CAN’T happen.
You need to have CONGRUENCE or alignment between what you DESIRE and what you BELIEVE about it. Really deep down, believe about it.
Step one to being wealthier, or slimmer, or fitter, or less stressed isn’t joining a gym or looking for a new job. The first step is getting congruence between what you WANT and what you THINK about it.
When you do that?
Well, then my dear, everything just clicks into place.
Congruence means ease. Congruence delivers ease. It means the end of self-sabotage. It cuts to the chase. No more “trying” to lose weight. You just lose the damn weight. No more “trying” to relax more, you just chill out when you need to, no apology necessary. No “trying” to get more money. You budget, you sell some stuff, you save, you change jobs, whatever you need to do. It just gets done. No struggle. No fight.
Congruence dials you into ease and flow. It reduces the amount of effort and willpower required. It cuts self-sabotage off at the knees. Now – doesn’t that sound like a more relaxing way to get what you want?