Do Other People Judge Your Choices?

I can’t begin to tell you how much stress we cause ourselves by worrying what “everybody” will think if we quit the shiny looking job that sucks our soul/leave the boyfriend who ticks all the boxes but just isn’t quite right/bring store-bought cakes to the school fair/order takeout for the dinner party/don’t catch up with that friend we have known since school. Worrying about the judgment of the world at large is the fastest way to derail plans that are right for your heart; your career; your body; your life. In short, it’s a dangerous way to live. Here’s the thing. Life is full of millions of tiny decisions. Worrying about what other people think of those decisions is a waste of mental and emotional energy you can much better invest elsewhere. Why do we get so concerned about approval from others? Because our actions are the centre of our own universe we can come to assume they are getting the same level of scrutiny from everyone else. Not so. It’s really good to know that the vast majority of the time people are not just only not caring about the decisions you make, they are not even noticing them. They are head down bum up focusing on their own stuff. This is good to know with small decisions. Truly. It’s liberating! NO ONE REALLY CARES WHAT YOU ARE CHOOSING! Most of the time THEY DON’T NOTICE AND THEY DON’T CARE!  So, decide at will. The scrutiny you are imagining is exactly that. Imaginary. Don’t let that imaginary judgment interfere… Read more